We cannot help loving people, we fall in love with everyone we meet.
Perhaps we fall in love with people like ourselves most of all, but we are each born and bred to be territorial animals, so perhaps we must always naturally compete and drive away any others around us who are too much like ourselves.
Perhaps we must inherently dislike seeing ourselves in the people closest to us because we cannot bear to see ourselves too clearly.
Perhaps our failure to love anyone we meet would be a failure to love ourselves.
We did not always recognise our love for other people, we only learned to love everyone we meet when we learned to love ourselves unconditionally.
We think all people seek relationships with all other people, regardless of whatever may characterize each individual relationship.
There may be characteristics an individual seeks in the nature of the roles to be played in any specific relationship,such as: family, friend, lover, confidante, security-net, dependent, peer, predator, antagonist, enemy, etc, however, we still fall in love with each person regardless of how they may seem to hurt us or to help us.
The sorts of relationships we are most interested in atm would be those that help us with our writing.
But there are a wide range of support roles. Our heart can be trusted to fall in love with everyone, but our mind can be mischievious and may often make us fight or resist the people we come to love most.
We can’t always know what we are really looking for in a relationship, but we can trust that a relationship will exist, and that each relationship will find it’s own appropriate level of being, according to what each member most wants or needs, not in our egos alone, but in our entirety, such that all the dark hidden parts of ourselves will have an equal share in what we manifest together with anyone we love.
Consequently, any enemy is really a friend, any foe is really an ally, and perhaps, any lover may become someone to be feared…
We must surrender parts of ourselves to any lover, those sacrifices are often painful, they may too often seem too hard for us.
It is often easier to fight one another than to agree because it too often seems as if we must give up too much of ourselves to each person whom we love.
We must somehow learn to strike a balance between how much we love ourselves and how much we love all others.
Love asks us to be selfless, to put those we love ahead of ourselves.
But when we put all other people ahead of ourselves then we must trust that those who love us will support us in return, for we no longer know how to compete with anyone, to take from anyone, and yet we cannot live without these trades of goods and services, these tokens of material existence we depend upon for our daily comfort or survival.
We give what we can, to all those who love us, but we give even more to anyone we fail to love well, for we give up our generosity, our kindness, our compassion, our comfort, and our trust when we fail to choose to love well.